Hello everyone. I just wanted to let you all know that my life seems to be finally starting to settle down. It’s been two full months since my mother’s death, and I’ve found that the fog has cleared and I’m feeling motivated to pursue productive pursuits again.
I’ve spent most of the past few weeks in some serious self-discovery. It’s clear to me (and Kim) that first and foremost he needs 2023 to be his next year. myself.
2023 — my year
Over ten years ago, I got into the habit of giving my year and month themes. it was fun! It was also fruitful. Whenever I decided to devote my time to one thing, whether it was fitness, writing, or dating, it always yielded great results. The practice of setting this theme continued for several years, but then I gave up halfway through.
Well, I put myself in second place too much. Or third. Or the ninth. From yesterday to next year (or more), I would like to think of myself first.
This is hard for me. seems selfish. It seems wrong. But the truth is, for too long I have allowed other things to get in the way of my pursuit of physical and mental health. I’ve been making excuses. No more! For the time being, JD is the number one job. The era of selfishness begins!
The truth, of course, is that I almost certainly will be a better person if I put myself first. others – Including you. I understand that this is so (in fact, this is something I often advise others to do), but I haven’t been able to act on that knowledge for too long.
Either way, I don’t think there will be any real change for readers of Get Rich Slowly. The change will happen primarily within you. As we head into 2023, allow yourself to put your own needs and aspirations above all else, which will almost certainly be more material for articles around here. andthe site dedesign is finally complete.
But as part of this year of “my year,” I’m intentionally not bound by a publishing or production schedule. If you have something to say, say it. Otherwise I don’t force anything.The post you are reading is a good example: I just finished another post design your life I had some free time before exercising and calling friends, so I decided to share a quick update.
Again, this is mostly an internal change. myself, it is known. But it’s an important change.
courage to be hated
On Thanksgiving, Kim and I drove to California to visit her brother’s family.We listened to it to pass the time courage to be hated Written by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. This book (should have been titled as such) courage to be happy) explores the worldview of psychologist Alfred Adler.
courage to be hated It’s full of wisdom. (I was frustrated that I couldn’t highlight certain passages in the audiobook!) Some gems like:
- People fake their anger.
- Learn to live without letting the past rule you.
- Misfortune is your choice.
- people generally choose do not have to change.
- Your life is here and now. echo of ( Eckhart Tolle, yes? )
- all The problem is a human relationship problem.
- Life is not a competition.
- Admitting fault is not defeat.
- Deny the request for approval. (Hey! It sounds like you have no ambition!)
- Discard other people’s tasks. (In other words, set and maintain healthy boundaries.)
- Freedom is to be hated by others.
- you are not the center of the world.
- The goal of interpersonal relationships is a sense of community.
- Do not scold or praise. (This was a huge revelation for both me and Kim.)
- exists in the present. (Eckhart Tolle again)
- Excessive self-consciousness suppresses oneself.
- Do not pursue self-affirmation. Pursue self-acceptance.
- The essence of work is to contribute to the public good.
- Have the courage to be normal.
- Life is a series of moments.
I realize that many of these statements are probably meaningless without context. It didn’t make sense to us either until we heard the explanation.
I will reread courage to be hated in Kindle format. Well, skim anyway and look for the best part. The book is written like a Socratic dialogue, but it can be both good and bad. You don’t have to (or don’t want to) sit around for most of the conversation for rereading purposes. I want only the best.
In the future, it is very likely that I will publish a full review/summary of this book on Get Rich Slowly.
value-based life
Finally, here are the quotes that came out in my email. leadwise Highlight of the day. I bookmarked this a few months ago and it struck me as particularly relevant to my current situation.
“The ability to subordinate impulses to values is the nature of a positive person. Reactive people are driven by emotions, situations, circumstances and environments. We are driven by internalized values.”
— Stephen R. Covey, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
One of the reasons I got to the point where I needed “my years” is because somehow I lost the ability to control my impulses and at the same time forgot my core values. It’s time to flip the script! I had already started taking steps to curb my urges – uninstalled Reddit and Hearthstone from my iPad, for example – and now it’s time to start practicing my values again.
That’s all for today. I’m sure we’ll be back again soon, but it might be a short one. Or maybe something more conversational… like this. (Actually, what I envision for the future is Each Each of the three sections of this post should be a separate article.)
I’m not giving up on longer, more focused articles. But for now, when it comes to “my year,” a blog post like this seems right.
